Reverb 10: It's Not (Just) Because I'm Lazy
15 years ago
Friday, September 26, 2008
random
Beck - Lost Cause
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Walking home from the bars last night:
"Mike, don't rub in our faces the fact that you found a stable relationship and are happy"
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This is interesting to me for a few reasons. All, only half baked and not well articulated...but interesting to me nonetheless.
Firstly, that Gordon was able to assume that all of us that were present want a stable and long term relationship. Which isn't that hard to derive I suppose....but isn't exactly easy to be sure of...
But on a larger scale...that that desire is a universal thing at all. That being in a stable, long term, continuous relationship is something that is common, and to be desired.
Why?
Why is it that we seek out that type of connection with another person? I am reminded of WALL-E. It is such a fundamental thing...looking for that one person (or robot in WALL-E's case) to share your life experiences with. The process of finding that one person seems to be an on going process with a majority of the population, a majority of the time. People are (but not people like Mike) constantly looking for their companion.
I then ask, why do we seek out those types of human connections with anyone? Is there some sort of evolutionary survival mechanism built into people that creates that need to share and be close with people? Why do I feel the need to share and be close with people at all? What is there for me to gain?
What is there to gain from any of this.
I suppose it is a dumb question. Because people have been asking these questions about humans for as long as humans were able to think it abstracted manners.
The desire to find that one person just is. The process of finding that one person just is.
It isn't a puzzle that needs solving.
But maybe I have thought of it in that manner my whole life.
And maybe that's a problem.
Or maybe it's not.
I have regrets in my life.
But I do not feel guilty.
nothing can stop me now.
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Walking home from class
With great intensity
a Girl rode past me on her bike
she smelled nice.
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On the bus
a
man
looking one hundred percent homeless
sat next to me.
He smell 100% horrible.
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I believe 100% that it's an evolutionary thing. Ultimately, we're all (humans and other animals/creatures/beings & plants alike) just trying to get our DNA into the next generation. The way in which nature gets us to do this varies (monogamy, polygamy, all around slutiness [like bonobo chimps], seeds, spores, etc.), but they're all just different ways to get these beings to reproduce most efficiently given their individual characteristics. Humans, having derived from tree-dwelling apes, are group animals, dependent on others for their food, shelter, and even happiness. Likewise, we're expected to contribute to the group. You ask why you feel the need to share and be close with others. It's because by acting altruistically, you expect that eventually it will come back around and benefit you. If you contribute to the group, your reproductive success will eventually be improved.
I know all of this is kind of abstract given our current "bang the chick you met at the Downer" culture, but I still think it holds true in the core of our actions.
We crave being around others because we're dependent on them. Solitary animals don't seek these close bonds, and therefore are more likely to have quick fucks and then move on. Humans want to keep fucking the same people.
In my opinion, though, humans are probably going against nature by being monogamous. I think that because of the incredible amount of time it takes for us to raise our children (~18 years), which makes the chances of them surviving into adulthood extremely low, it's in our best interest for males to reproduce as often as possible (hence increasing their chances at reproductive success). But due to the advances of technology and civilization, child survival rates are through the roof and we're overpopulating the fuck out of this planet. We're therefore at a stage in which polygamy isn't necessary for us to survive anymore, so we're tending towards single solitary mates.
I know this doesn't answer your questions very well, but I hope it gives you some biological insight.
To sum up: altruism is sexy.
Oh, and if you're mormon, you can pretty much ignore all of what I just said.
parking lot disaster
ughh bars and not my party?
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